Love; a word that’s used so frequently and easily these days. We’ve become so used to saying “I love you,” but have failed to practice the true meaning and Godly example of love. In fact, we often view love as a deep care that is both everlasting and unconditional. Truth is many of us have truly never really lived up to the Godly standard of love.
1 Corinthians 13 beginning at verse 4 reads, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” After reading this very detailed description of love I can honestly say that I have not mastered it. If we are totally honest with ourselves, none of us have. Some may be stronger in this area than others, but truth be told the majority is not. So why did God give us this very elaborate meaning of love?
Once we’ve learned what love truly is, we often expect others to exhibit this exact model of love in our everyday lives. We EXPECT to be treated with love, and vow to treat others the same. But what happens when those expectations are not humanly met? We search for relationships (all different types) that will fulfill our need to be loved. Some of us go from relationship to relationship thinking that one of these times I will receive it! Sadly instead of experiencing the love we believe we deserve, we experience disappointment after disappointment.
John 15:13 reads, “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” The love that Jesus Christ demonstrated will never ever be emulated. His love for us goes beyond what we can see or even at times feel. When we place our expectations on others, believing that they can love us more than God loves us then we are mistaken. Not only are we mistaken, but we will constantly be disappointed. Furthermore, if we really understood God’s love for us then we would stop holding humans so high in respect to unconditional love. While it’s true we should love the way God intends us to, we certainly need his Spirit to guide us in all truth. Even in marriage, your spouse can and will never love you as much as God loves you. We know the scripture, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” Ephesians 5:25. This is a command God gives husbands, which is not necessarily already evident. Otherwise, why would he be telling us these things if it were already perfected?
The real love we will experience in this life is God’s love. It is the only love that is promised to us, and we don’t need to do anything to receive it. Of course when we accept his son Jesus Christ into our hearts we will better understand his love, which will ultimately help us to live more victorious lives. Always remember that God loves us so much. His love is everlasting and as he said in his word, “38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” Romans 8:38-39. His love is so promising; don’t you want to experience real love?